The Distinction between African Wives and European Wives

We saw the pictures of the western nuclear family in class. A wife or a mother in the European nuclear family is portrayed as a woman who has her own choice for herself and for her family.
However, Oyewumi describes African women as wives who must be obedient to their husbands or male figures in family. African women are more perceived in the kinship structure rather than the modern nuclear family. Though both are identified as women, we cannot ignore the distinction between the western women and the African women.
Thus, the circumstances of African women require another point of view of feminism, different than women from in the West. African women suffer from patriarchal oppression as well as racial discrimination. Can we apply post-colonial point of view to interpret the different circumstances between wives in the European nuclear family and wives in the African family?